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Comparison in Youth Sports: How to Help Kids Use It the Right Way

Comparison in Youth Sports: How to Help Kids Us...

Shane Kuyper

Comparison is common in youth sports—but it doesn’t have to undermine confidence. This post explores how parents can help kids compare the right way by focusing on personal growth, progress,...

Comparison in Youth Sports: How to Help Kids Us...

Shane Kuyper

Comparison is common in youth sports—but it doesn’t have to undermine confidence. This post explores how parents can help kids compare the right way by focusing on personal growth, progress,...

Why Connection Should Come Before Correction in Youth Sports

Why Connection Should Come Before Correction in...

Shane Kuyper

In youth sports, kids hear guidance best after they feel connected. This post explores why connection comes before correction, how timing shapes growth, and how parents can support learning without...

Why Connection Should Come Before Correction in...

Shane Kuyper

In youth sports, kids hear guidance best after they feel connected. This post explores why connection comes before correction, how timing shapes growth, and how parents can support learning without...

Why “Just Have Fun” Doesn’t Always Land (and What Helps Instead)

Why “Just Have Fun” Doesn’t Always Land (and Wh...

Shane Kuyper

“Just have fun” is one of the most common things parents say in sports—but it doesn’t always land the way we hope. Fun looks different for every child, and when...

Why “Just Have Fun” Doesn’t Always Land (and Wh...

Shane Kuyper

“Just have fun” is one of the most common things parents say in sports—but it doesn’t always land the way we hope. Fun looks different for every child, and when...

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When Growth Doesn’t Look Like Progress in Youth...

Shane Kuyper

One of the hardest parts of parenting kids in sports is this: Growth doesn’t always look the way we expect it to. If you’ve ever felt that tension, that’s completely...

When Growth Doesn’t Look Like Progress in Youth...

Shane Kuyper

One of the hardest parts of parenting kids in sports is this: Growth doesn’t always look the way we expect it to. If you’ve ever felt that tension, that’s completely...

The Hidden Pressure Kids Feel in Youth Sports (and How Parents Can Help)

The Hidden Pressure Kids Feel in Youth Sports (...

Shane Kuyper

Kids don’t always know how to talk about pressure—but that doesn’t mean they aren’t carrying it. For many families, youth sports start out light and fun. But as kids grow,...

The Hidden Pressure Kids Feel in Youth Sports (...

Shane Kuyper

Kids don’t always know how to talk about pressure—but that doesn’t mean they aren’t carrying it. For many families, youth sports start out light and fun. But as kids grow,...

When Success Still Feels Heavy for Kids

When Success Still Feels Heavy for Kids

Shane Kuyper

Why kids sometimes shut down after games—even when they play well—and how parents can support emotional regulation in youth sports.

When Success Still Feels Heavy for Kids

Shane Kuyper

Why kids sometimes shut down after games—even when they play well—and how parents can support emotional regulation in youth sports.